Positive strategies

Photo and quote, "I can feel my love for you even if you aren't loving toward me."

What do most people do when they want to feel more valued, appreciated or at peace with people who work for them? Most people ask (or wish for) the other person to give them more love– in the form of effort, respect, or appreciation. What do happier people do? Instead of searching for how to […]

Photo of jack-o-lanterns and "You Light Up My Smile"

For Day 3 of Love Week — a week of finding reasons to flow love… What are some of your “life’s little luxuries” — everyday things that give you a little thrill each time you experience them? Today’s love fest is all about loving your life’s little luxuries… Love Note of the day:   From […]

Photo of a basketball and quote about being who you are.

Today is Day 2 of my Love Week — a week of finding reasons to flow even more love… When I asked entrepreneur Mark Sellew what he believes led to his success in growing his company over the past 32 years, he said, “You’ve got to love your customers. You’ve got to love your products. […]

Photo and Quote: "Just thinking of you as a baby makes me smile inside and out."

Today is Day 1 of my Love Week  — a week of finding reasons to flow even more love… I’m starting with some inspiration: a Love Note of the day and a Love Song of the day.  Then I’m primed to answer a Love Question of the day.  Hope you’ll join me and share the […]

Quote and Photo from eBook

“‘I was an aspiring astrophysicist and that’s how I defined myself, not by my skin color…’” — Neil deGrasse Tyson in Parade Magazine today. It’s so freeing to stop viewing yourself through other-people’s-eyes. Too often, we allow ourselves to be defined by other people’s opinions — by what they think about our behavior, our performance, […]

Image for "You control what you think"

There are times when it doesn’t feel as if I have control of my thoughts– it’s more like my thoughts are the inmates running the asylum. That’s when I remind myself that the only thing that imprisons us is our own thinking. And when I remember that I control what matters most — my own […]

Hot Air Balloons

  Is summer a playful, fun, adventurous time for you and your family?  Fun might not seem all that important, but playing and joy and experimenting is great for well-being– at any age. As renowned expert, Dr. George Vaillant, says, “Real sophistication…is epitomized by knowing how to play.” Wouldn’t it be great if you could […]

Even though I know better, it’s easy to forget that where I put my attention is a choice. My choice. Sometimes I get caught in the trap of feeling stressed and I keep thinking about the stressful thing… I may even talk about it, which keeps it front and center…. and it’s like a whirlpool, […]

Photo of wrought iron fence with heart shape between posts

“I am optimistic about some things in my life, but you also have to be realistic,” writes an astute reader in response to Saturday’s Love Notes.  This belief in a trade-off between being optimistic and being realistic is something I hear often. In the “real” world of investments, most are aware of the psychological factors […]

Happy Golden Retriever Photo and Quote

  You may have heard people say, “you’re only as happy as your unhappiest child…”  I try to remind myself: that’s only true when I choose to let it be. I try to remember this when my child is going through a tough time.  It can feel more painful to see her suffer than to […]